FRIENDS FOR FRIENDS
FRIENDLY BOOKS
There are so many ways to win a friend. A lot of books would expand the discussion in line with making friends, winning friends, being friendly, keeping a friend, and so on and so forth. And mind you, many publishers go for this stuff because they know readers will buy these. The condition of being with someone is a treasure to keep and you can bet your life. Having no one is like no life at all - no man is an island.
WAYS OUT OF THE INSECURE
Admit it, human beings with the right minds and hearts possess insecurities, big or little, and sometimes are haunted by the thoughts of being deserted. Many responses to keep friends under their wings are sometimes generated out of these piercing thoughts, intentionally or not, serious or light, with dark or not so harmful schemes. We long for company. No doubt about it. However trying to gain friends out of the insecurities of longing to have someone may not really gaining friends in the long run. Here are some of the schemes out of being insecure to win friends:
We could give the best foot forward and gain many friends. Sometimes it is not your own foot you are exposing and pretend that it’s yours in order to win friends.
We could say bad words to someone who you know would be your rival in getting the attention of a friend. We could be more fatal and obsessive like simply stabbing him/her on the back and eliminate him/her physically
We could not just say “No” to a favor in order not to be abandoned by friends no matter how against it would be in our system.
When you have done one or more of these practices, does it mean you are insecure? YES.
ONLY THEM
Only insecure people pretend they are someone else because they don’t like what they are at present. And when they don’t like what they are, they believe people don’t like them as they really are and would not like them as friends when people find out the truth. Gosh! This is hard work to keep friends. Covering what you think are your faults is hard maintenance.
Only insecure people try to push down people. It’s like degrading others is the only investment they have to succeed. Without ridiculing others, they believe they can’t make it. What happened to their God-given talent to succeed? They are too insecure to realize that. I believe in the long run, they will lose all what they have. It will bounce back one of these days. Killing reputations is as wicked as murdering since both are destroying life of a person. No reputation is as good as no life at all. Logically it means a backbiter is as heinous as a murderer.
Only insecure people are afraid of rejections. They think that saying “No” means loosing a friend. Saying “No” even if it is against your will may win friends but surely will loose your respect to yourself. When you don’t have respect to yourself how can you expect others to respect you?
I believe that when you are confident with yourself and with the relationship with a true friend, you don’t have an inclination of doing these wicked ways.
FRIENDS ARE FOR FRIENDS
Friends are for friends. If you were meant to be friends you would stick with each other no matter what. It’s a matter of finding that circle. And when you find it, no matter what happens, you’ll never lose it. How to keep it? There’s no other way except to be yourself. It’s as simple as that.
Friends are for friends. The confidence with each other is so strong that even when one is away, you are assured in your heart that one would still find you. The trust with each other is so strong believing that no threat of any matter would take away the friendship.
Friends are for friends. They know each other. They respect each other. They help one another grow. They help one another pick up their mess. Whatever comes their way, they’re in this together. Doing favors with each other is always part of their system.
WHO’S HARD TO FIND?
They say that true friends are hard to find when in fact you are hard to find because of your deceptions, because you are driven away by loss of trust, or because you can’t find yourself either.
Be yourself and gain confidence in who you are and whom you are meant with. You might be able to find yourself trimming out the what-you-call circle of friends: losing false friends and gaining true friends. Perhaps you may find out that true friends are just around the corner after all.
There are so many ways to win a friend. A lot of books would expand the discussion in line with making friends, winning friends, being friendly, keeping a friend, and so on and so forth. And mind you, many publishers go for this stuff because they know readers will buy these. The condition of being with someone is a treasure to keep and you can bet your life. Having no one is like no life at all - no man is an island.
WAYS OUT OF THE INSECURE
Admit it, human beings with the right minds and hearts possess insecurities, big or little, and sometimes are haunted by the thoughts of being deserted. Many responses to keep friends under their wings are sometimes generated out of these piercing thoughts, intentionally or not, serious or light, with dark or not so harmful schemes. We long for company. No doubt about it. However trying to gain friends out of the insecurities of longing to have someone may not really gaining friends in the long run. Here are some of the schemes out of being insecure to win friends:
We could give the best foot forward and gain many friends. Sometimes it is not your own foot you are exposing and pretend that it’s yours in order to win friends.
We could say bad words to someone who you know would be your rival in getting the attention of a friend. We could be more fatal and obsessive like simply stabbing him/her on the back and eliminate him/her physically
We could not just say “No” to a favor in order not to be abandoned by friends no matter how against it would be in our system.
When you have done one or more of these practices, does it mean you are insecure? YES.
ONLY THEM
Only insecure people pretend they are someone else because they don’t like what they are at present. And when they don’t like what they are, they believe people don’t like them as they really are and would not like them as friends when people find out the truth. Gosh! This is hard work to keep friends. Covering what you think are your faults is hard maintenance.
Only insecure people try to push down people. It’s like degrading others is the only investment they have to succeed. Without ridiculing others, they believe they can’t make it. What happened to their God-given talent to succeed? They are too insecure to realize that. I believe in the long run, they will lose all what they have. It will bounce back one of these days. Killing reputations is as wicked as murdering since both are destroying life of a person. No reputation is as good as no life at all. Logically it means a backbiter is as heinous as a murderer.
Only insecure people are afraid of rejections. They think that saying “No” means loosing a friend. Saying “No” even if it is against your will may win friends but surely will loose your respect to yourself. When you don’t have respect to yourself how can you expect others to respect you?
I believe that when you are confident with yourself and with the relationship with a true friend, you don’t have an inclination of doing these wicked ways.
FRIENDS ARE FOR FRIENDS
Friends are for friends. If you were meant to be friends you would stick with each other no matter what. It’s a matter of finding that circle. And when you find it, no matter what happens, you’ll never lose it. How to keep it? There’s no other way except to be yourself. It’s as simple as that.
Friends are for friends. The confidence with each other is so strong that even when one is away, you are assured in your heart that one would still find you. The trust with each other is so strong believing that no threat of any matter would take away the friendship.
Friends are for friends. They know each other. They respect each other. They help one another grow. They help one another pick up their mess. Whatever comes their way, they’re in this together. Doing favors with each other is always part of their system.
WHO’S HARD TO FIND?
They say that true friends are hard to find when in fact you are hard to find because of your deceptions, because you are driven away by loss of trust, or because you can’t find yourself either.
Be yourself and gain confidence in who you are and whom you are meant with. You might be able to find yourself trimming out the what-you-call circle of friends: losing false friends and gaining true friends. Perhaps you may find out that true friends are just around the corner after all.
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