EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT
I visited Special Word website. This is what God said to me: "Do not use harmful words, but only helpful words, the kind that build up and provide what is needed, so that what you say will do good to those who hear you."-Ephesians 4:29
I am at present moulding a habit that would find something good to say on anyone I would meet aside from saying “Hello”, “Hi”, “Good Morning”, “Gidday”.“Nice jacket you are wearing.”“That is a neat outfit.”“Congratulation with your presentation a while ago. You did a good job.”Those little add-ons to your greetings are just small nice comments but they might be a big positive impact to the receivers. Putting a smile on someone’s face due to praises can be a permanent file stored on someone’s memory that can be most of the time recalled. Praises can never be forgotten. They are always on the top file of the most visited folder of someone’s memory. File of praises are meant to be pulled out and be recalled when someone is down. Files of praises are remembered along with certain labels. That certain labels are the names of the givers. “O yeah, Jon, gave that comment to me. He’s something.” If you keep on praising others as a practice, you keep on adding good files with your name attached to them. This gesture is what Stephen Covey (7 Habits) calls depositing to the EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT. When you are kind, honest, caring and friendly to another person, you make deposits on an Emotional Bank Account as well. However, if you are unkind, disrespectful, uncaring and mean, you draw from this account.There is no telling that you would be in a good mood always. No matter how you have all the intention of not hurting anyone, there are times you can not please everyone and there are times that you hurt someone regardless of your intention. Bad moods have their swings and sometimes gets you into saying or doing that you will regret. During those times that you have been bad to someone are withdrawals to the Emotional Bank Account. However if you keep on depositing, by being nice most of the time and establishing a good investment, sudden and unwanted withdrawals would do no harm. Have you noticed that it is easy to forgive a trustful friend who has done petty harm to you. You know that you trust him so much due to all the good deed he has done to you and he has been frequently depositing to your emotional bank account.If you do frequent withdrawal, how much trust do you think you gain from others? If you are frequently unkind, disrespectful, uncaring, maligning, ridiculing, backbiting, lying, making trouble and mean, you definitely will end up with a negative account. Come to think of it: with this kind of attitude, do you think you still have true friends. I doubt it. You may say you have people around your circles but I bet they are just around and are just watchful to your snarl. Gosh! I have read Covey’s book more than 10 years ago and I still remember this concept. This might have created an impact to me.
I am at present moulding a habit that would find something good to say on anyone I would meet aside from saying “Hello”, “Hi”, “Good Morning”, “Gidday”.“Nice jacket you are wearing.”“That is a neat outfit.”“Congratulation with your presentation a while ago. You did a good job.”Those little add-ons to your greetings are just small nice comments but they might be a big positive impact to the receivers. Putting a smile on someone’s face due to praises can be a permanent file stored on someone’s memory that can be most of the time recalled. Praises can never be forgotten. They are always on the top file of the most visited folder of someone’s memory. File of praises are meant to be pulled out and be recalled when someone is down. Files of praises are remembered along with certain labels. That certain labels are the names of the givers. “O yeah, Jon, gave that comment to me. He’s something.” If you keep on praising others as a practice, you keep on adding good files with your name attached to them. This gesture is what Stephen Covey (7 Habits) calls depositing to the EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT. When you are kind, honest, caring and friendly to another person, you make deposits on an Emotional Bank Account as well. However, if you are unkind, disrespectful, uncaring and mean, you draw from this account.There is no telling that you would be in a good mood always. No matter how you have all the intention of not hurting anyone, there are times you can not please everyone and there are times that you hurt someone regardless of your intention. Bad moods have their swings and sometimes gets you into saying or doing that you will regret. During those times that you have been bad to someone are withdrawals to the Emotional Bank Account. However if you keep on depositing, by being nice most of the time and establishing a good investment, sudden and unwanted withdrawals would do no harm. Have you noticed that it is easy to forgive a trustful friend who has done petty harm to you. You know that you trust him so much due to all the good deed he has done to you and he has been frequently depositing to your emotional bank account.If you do frequent withdrawal, how much trust do you think you gain from others? If you are frequently unkind, disrespectful, uncaring, maligning, ridiculing, backbiting, lying, making trouble and mean, you definitely will end up with a negative account. Come to think of it: with this kind of attitude, do you think you still have true friends. I doubt it. You may say you have people around your circles but I bet they are just around and are just watchful to your snarl. Gosh! I have read Covey’s book more than 10 years ago and I still remember this concept. This might have created an impact to me.
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